VIDEO: Introduction to the Before We Say, "I Do" Program

Before We Say "I Do": Companion Course with Premarital Education and Counseling

Session #1: Our Marriage Vision (Approx. 90 mins.)

Session #2: Attachment & Bringing My Best Self to Our Marriage (Approx. 90 mins.)

Session #3: Let's Get Real: Looking Back, Looking Forward (Approx. 2 hours)

Session #4: Becoming a Team by Communicating for Connection (Approx. 3 hrs.)

COUPLE DISCUSSION: Communication for Connection Questions
VIDEO: Part 1-The Origins of Disconnection (14:36)
VIDEO: Part 2-Understanding Our Own and Our Partner's Raw Spots (i.e., Triggers) (12:06)
WORKSHEET: Identifying Your Raw Spots ( i.e., "Emotional Sunburns") (Print Out)
VIDEO: Part 3-Understanding Your Relationship Negative Cycle of Disconnection (15:19)
WORKSHEET: Identifying Your Negative Cycle (Print Out)
ACTIVITY: Discovering Your Potential Differences
VIDEO: Part 4-Our Communication Filters, Harsh Start-ups, and Four Horsemen (14:11)

Session #5: Becoming a Team by Using Conflict for Connection (Approx. 3 hrs.)

COUPLE DISCUSSION: Conflict Resolution and Repair
VIDEO: Part 1-Common Issues for Newlyweds & Key Points of Marital Conflict & Reconnection (21:59)
VIDEO: Part 2-Building Your Foundation for Healthy Conflict Resolution & Repair (17:12)
VIDEO: Part 3-Using Emotional Regulation to Maintain Connection (17:43)
VIDEO: Part 4-Introduction to The ReConnection and Repair Discussion (19:23)
VIDEO: Part 5-The ReConnection and Repair Discussion (20:08)
PRACTICE: Reconnection and Repair Discussion Handouts (Print Out)
VIDEO: When Conflicts Get Out of Control (20:30)
WORKSHEET: Our Communication & Conflict Grounds Rules (Print Out)
EXTRA CREDIT WORKSHEET: Creating Your Timeout Guidelines & Rules (Print Out)

Session #6: Becoming a Sexual Intimacy Team (Approx. 4 hrs.)

VIDEO: Introduction to Becoming a Sexual Intimacy Team (18:11)
COUPLE DISCUSSION: Sexual Intimacy--Past, Present, & Future
VIDEO: Guidepost #1: Nurturing Your Secure Attachment & Friendship (16:32)
VIDEO: Guidepost #2: Understanding & Fostering a Healthy Sexual Self-Concept (24:09)
READING: 15 Most Important Keys to Help You in Your First Time Being Sexually Intimate
VIDEO: Guidepost #3: Obtaining Sufficient & Accurate Sexual Knowledge (Part 1) (24:28)
VIDEO: Guidepost #3: Obtaining Sufficient & Accurate Sexual Knowledge (Part 2) (23:44)
READING: Sex Education 101: The Basics
VIDEO: Guidepost #4: Creating & Maintaining Realistic Sexual Expectations (21:05)
VIDEO: Guidepost #5: Healthy Sexual Communication Before and After the Honeymoon (23:22)
EXTRA CREDIT READING: Frequently Asked Questions About Marital Sexual Intimacy
EXTRA CREDIT READING: (For LDS Couples) Maintaining Your Sexual Boundaries Before the Wedding
EXTRA CREDIT ACTIVITY: My Sexual Self-Concept

Session #7: Managing Finances as a Team (Approx. 2.5 hrs.)

COUPLE DISCUSSION: Finances: My Past, The Present, and Our Future
READING: 13 Strategies for Managing Your Finances as a Team
READING: (For LDS Couples) 13 Strategies for Managing Your Finances as a Team
ACTIVITY: A Six Step Process of Getting a Bird's Eye View of Your Financial Situation
WORKSHEET: Our Assets and Debts
WORKSHEET: Our Estimated Average Monthly Expenses
WORKSHEET: Our Financial Ground Rules

Session #8: Building an Intentional Marriage (Approx. 2 hrs.)

Session #9: Newlywed Follow Up